Maybe We Should Be More Like Millennials

So we have decided that we will continue to work after we retire. We want to do something different, something that we have always wanted to so. Something that feeds our soul and our passion. Maybe we just want to do something where we are productive, something where there is a chance to get out of the house and communicate with others. There are many reasons that women and men of a certain age want to continue to work after their formal retirement.

Most of us remember when we first started to work and people would wonder if we were old enough for the job. Guess what? Now they wonder are we too old for the job.

You see that gray hair can be a giveaway to our age, and age discrimination is real. I know there are millennials sporting the gray look, but for the most part they get theirs out of a box.

Take it from someone who has finally divorced hair color and decided it is what it is. It does seem interesting that most of the people in power around the world are gray haired or other unnatural hair colors, but when it comes to getting a job it is a deterrent to the interviewer. It’s hard to even get an interview or get through the interview when the interviewer sees you as his mother or God forbid his grandmother.

This article by columnist Mitchel Schnurman recently appeared in the Dallas Morning News. It is an opinion piece, but personally I think it speaks the truth. Does gray hair stop you from getting pass the interview?

Then it hit me, maybe we should follow the lead of the millennials. Remember when we wouldn’t hire them because their hair was blue, hot pink, too long, dredded or whatever? What did they do? They started their own businesses. Why not start our own business doing what we want? We have the time, the experience and education so why not go for it?

Millennials did not wait for baby boomers to hire them so why are we waiting on them to hire us? We taught them to go for it. Let’s take our own advice and just do it.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. What are you waiting for?

Letting The Silver Shine In My Hair

I finally decided to do it.  It wasn’t easy to let it go, but somewhere deep down inside I knew it was time.

India Arie told me that I was not my hair, but did I believe her?  I can remember to the date that my hair color changed from dark brown to red.  It was about the week after I graduated from high school.  I know this because my mother and I had discussed it for what seemed liked years.  Back then my Aunt Bonnie and my mother both colored their hair, and since I wanted to be them, I wanted to color mine.  My mother said that after high school graduation I could do just that.  From that week on my hair was some variety of red.  Most of the time I colored it a medium red, but occasionally it got a little light.  I was never fond of the darker shades, but I loved my red hair.

After I informed my daughters that I was going to stop coloring my hair, my youngest daughter suggested that I go natural too.  I told her one step at a time, and letting the silver shine through was the first step.  When the gray started to come in, I can honestly say I really didn’t remember what I looked like with my natural hair color.  It made laugh when my hubby told me he married a redhead, and I reminded him that I married a man with an afro–a big afro, and he was now sporting a ball head.

I’m not going to say I will never color my hair again–I am a woman of a certain age, and I can change my mind.  For now I have decided to let the silver shine through.  Who knows natural and blonde may be my next adventure.  Besides I can be a redhead whenever I want–I have enough alternative hair (wigs) to be almost every shade of red they make.

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 Remember “thisisyourbestyear”, you are not your hair.

 

 

I Agree With Ann Brenoff

Well Ann Brenoff and I are on the same page.  I agree with her–I am not ready to go gray!  I remember telling the stylist that I needed to come in because there was some white stuff in my hair that would not go away.  He laughed when I came in, and it was the gray.

I have thought about it though, but in all honestly my gray is just ugly.  It didn’t come in like a friend of mine–you know that nice salt and pepper look.  The very bright white which is so pretty.  I do think some people can rock gray, just like I think Mary J. Blige can rock blond and Sharon Osbourne shade of red.

I’ve decided that Ann Brenoff and I will become good friends as we hoard hair color.  Take a look at Ann’s post that appeared on the Huffington Post.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ann-brenoff/not-ready-to-go-gray_b_6746432.html?utm_hp_ref=fifty&ir=Fifty

You can follow Ann on Twitter at: @AnnBrenoff.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–to go gray or not is your choice!  Thank the Lord!

Enjoy The Opportunities Of Aging

AntiEnough said.  The act of aging is happening to all of us even as we try all kinds of creams, exercises, hair colors and more to fight it.  It’s in our genetic makeup barring any major illness how well we will age.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m going to continue to fight the signs, but I embrace all of the opportunities that aging allows.  It has allowed me to leave a career that I enjoyed with a retirement–most people can’t say that now, and start a new career that I am enjoying. It has allowed me an opportunity to travel, sleep late, read, write, enjoy life and more.  I’m not ready for the gray to show all of the time, but the opportunity to try it out is coming fast.  The opportunities of aging are infinite, try some of them out.  You might find something that you really like.  If not try something else.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. Enjoy!

You can find more of these wonderful sayings at www.GrowingBolder.com.

To Gray Or Not To Gray

Gray hair can be beautiful.  It seems that if you gray early in life it comes in prettier. My gray came in later, and is so very dull.  The article below talks about going gray.  Take a look and enjoy.

http://www.salon.com/2014/06/02/my_feminist_revolution_at_40_why_i_let_my_gray_show_and_why_its_a_political_act/

Are you letting your gray show or not?  Why or why not?  I’m the first to admit that I’m not there yet.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.