A blog for and about women of a certain age
It was a great evening being interviewed by Matt Blake and Casey Sanders of the show “Inspired to Greatness”. The discussion was about the subject It’s Never too Late. As a woman of a certain age, it was an easy conversation for me to have.
Hope you will enjoy the conversation
To hear more conversations with Matt and Casey go to Inspired to Greatness. Enjoy the conversations, and remember it’s never too late because “thisisyourbestyear”.
Most people have read or heard all of the information on what makes a successful marriage. How to keep a husband/wife happy, the 5 or 10 or 15 steps to a happy marriage. How to fight fair. Men are from wherever and women are from some other place.
On August 4 I celebrated my 40th wedding anniversary. People asked if it felt like 40 years, did the time just fly by and other such nonsense. They also wanted to know how we made it work, was the relationship 50/50, how did having children change the dynamics of the marriage, who was the one with the last word?
There is no magic in having a successful, most of the time happy marriage. I love those people who say that every day it was almost perfect because they married their perfect mate. I personally don’t know who they married because I don’t know two perfect people.
First of all we were parented by different people. That plays a big part in the marriage. Whether we want to admit it or not, we learned from our parents–good or bad, and our parents learned from their parents and so on.
So I thought I would give you some of the myth busters that I have encountered.
don’t let the spouse know. They know. Put it in an account with your name on it and move on.
What makes a successful marriage? I wish I knew. I can tell you that it is always a work in progress. The one thing that is a constant with us is that no matter what, prayers are said before we close our eyes and when we open them in the morning. We truly believe that prayer helps everything. He will never be a cat person, and dogs are growing on me.
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. If it works for you…….
Remember when you tried to please everyone? Remember how hard it was to say no to people especially those that you really cared about or a group you wanted to be a part of? Remember how you didn’t want to hurt their feelings when they asked a question they probably already knew the answer to?
Well guess what? As we age, it gets easier to say what is on your mind, but most importantly we now have permission to say no and not give a reason why. We can tell the reason for the no answer, but it is not a requirement, it is an option.
This goes for everyone in the family. I know what most of you are thinking–you’re thinking about the grandchildren and babysitting. Although sometimes you do have plans or you just don’t feel like it–it happens no matter how sweet and cute they are. You just want to put your feet up, watch a movie, take a nap in other words you don’t feel like it. So the answer is no.
It could be with your hubby or significant other when they say let’s go to dinner. Do they want to go to (name their favorite place), and you don’t want to eat there, just say no. When he asks where you want to go, give him suggestions that you like.
Since we are of a certain age, most of us learned to type. So at committee meetings especially if we are one of the few females in attendance they always ask if we can take the notes for this meeting. We grudgingly do, and then we have to type them up, and now we have become the recording secretary. Next time they ask you, tell them no you can’t unless of course you like that position. I seem to remember guys in my typing class so why not let them take and type the minutes?
The first few times you say the word no to something you’ve always wanted to say no to will feel a little weird, and it will shock those that you say it to.
Sometimes the word yes can be used to your benefit. How many of us have had this question-
-“do you mind if I switch the channel”, and we say no. Next time say yes if you are watching something that you like.
When we finally figure out that it’s okay to say no I don’t, or yes I do mind because that’s how we feel then we must do one other thing. We must stop apologizing. It’s just how we feel, no I don’t want to do something and/or yes I do mind.
Think of yourself as a toddler. When you ask them a question, and they say no there is no explanation, no apology just on to the next question. Don’t feel bad, you will again keep the grandchildren, eat at his favorite place and probably take notes at a committee meeting, but you now know that you can stop trying to please everyone.
Start pleasing yourself and learning the art of saying “no” and “yes I do mind”–remember “thisisyourbestyear”.
Here at “thisisyourbestyear” we pride ourselves on keeping our readers informed. We know that you want to know about the important things and dates, the things that matter to you, your family, the world as a whole. Each time we write an article we have your well-being in mind. This important time slipped up on us, but we remembered just in time. A celebration is in the works and you are invited.
All of us are about to do the happy dance. On July 11, 2018 
we are all invited to celebrate a birthday. No gifts will be expected, all that is required is your attendance. Yes, 7 Eleven is celebrating its birthday by giving away free “small” slurpees. I wait all year for this event. It’s the only time I have a slurpee. My only dilemma is trying to decide what flavor I want this year.
7 Eleven is giving away more things, but I only want the slurpee. Here is a list of the other 
items and dates of the giveaways To get the other free items, you must sign up for their rewards app.
The weird thing is that I only want one, it’s kind of like me and the corny dog thing. One is just enough until next year.
Enjoy the birthday party and your free slurpee. Let us know what flavor you get. Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.
As women of a certain age, we were always taught to not be selfish. We were told “don’t be selfish” when it came to our toys, but now I am telling you that it is okay to be selfish. Women of a certain age have earned the right to want and do something just for themselves–we’re not going to hurt anyone.
Some things that you can do that will make only you happy or at least the happiest in your 
family.
These seem like simple things, but we as women of a certain age were taught to put others before us, and stop being selfish. If taking care of yourself is being selfish, then I am all for it.
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. You’re not being selfish by making yourself happy. Take into consideration that they would want you to be happy.
Share with us any other ways that we can be “selfish” and not hurt anyone. We are looking forward to reading them.
I have finally decided to stop worrying about most things. You know I will continue to worry about my children and family. That’s a no brainer, but everything else, I will not worry about and that includes my job.
I will let go, and let God. I will do as the song says, “Don’t worry be happy”. I will do what needs to be done, and let it go at that. I will be like the millennials, and the whatever else the younger generation is called. I will stop worrying.
It started a couple of years ago–I can remember it well. Up until that time I would be a nervous wreck when something went wrong in my house. I would talk out loud wondering how did this happen, why poor me, every time I got a nickel I had to spend a dime. You get the picture.
Well about 7 years ago our youngest fresh out of the Coast Guard was on her way to work when she informed me there was water in the kitchen on the floor. I immediately thought my loving husband had spilled a little something. Before I made it into the kitchen I walked in a river of water that had engulfed part of the den and office. The river was running wild in the sunroom, dining room, kitchen and laundry area–probably in the garage (but I didn’t care about the garage). I finally woke my husband out of a deep sleep, started to push water out, called the insurance company and waited on those that could help us dry out. Our house had taken on flood water, but being the worrier that I was, yes I had taken out flood 
insurance a couple of years before. While my husband continued to push out water, I got dressed and went to work. Now back in my younger days I would have had a crying, pity party, but I had matured–nature had run its course, and I had tried to be prepared for it. I did worry that the insurance would not pay off, but it did.
When they started to repair our house they told us we had a leaking pipe behind the washer because the paint would not dry. So me being the worrier had purchased a home warranty plan from a well-known company that I will not name (horrible company). Inbox me and I will give you their name. They sent plumbers who came out 3 times, and each time they informed me they had fixed the problem–paint still wouldn’t dry. So I decided to call a plumber I had used before 
the home warranty plan. The man came out looked at the wall, then at my newly laid kitchen floor and informed me I had a slab leak, and he would be back the next morning to let me know where it was located. Yes, it was under my newly laid floor, but again the contractor and I had planned, we had purchased more flooring than we needed. As the plumber jackhammered my floor on a Saturday which meant that we would have this gigantic hole in the floor over the weekend–I didn’t worry. If you came to my house doing that time, you would just have to walk around the hole in the floor.
Big White my 2003 Dodge Durango and I had a loving relationship. She had not been much trouble, a little bit here and there, but for the most part she ran good. Then one day in 2016 all kind of lights came on in her and would not go away. The mechanic informed me of the problem, and the cost–I cried when I had to let her go, but it was time. So instead of worrying about what kind of car I was gonna get, I just knew it had to fit in my garage. I didn’t worry about should I or shouldn’t I–it was time. I didn’t worry about it. Car note here I come.
Both my girls have left their jobs because they were not happy, and all I could think of was you have a car note, house note and other bills. They replied, don’t worry–be happy. Well they didn’t really say that, but that was their attitude. I was running around getting all worked up, and they were out having a good time. Yes, they were seeking employment, and yes they found what they were looking for. So why was I worrying? Because I am a woman of a certain age, but their father is a man of a certain age, and he doesn’t worry. Go figure.
And now my refrigerator all of 7 years old is on the blink. I can remember the one my grandmother had. I don’t ever remember it getting repaired, and I don’t remember her buying a new one. I could worry about the food that will spoil in the hot refrigerator and freezer, but I will do the best I can to save what I can. Then I will fill out the lost food form and hope for the best.
I say all of this to say I don’t have high blood pressure, and I will not get high blood pressure behind things that I cannot control. My husband gets upset at sporting events, I theorize that no one wants to lose, but somebody will. He theorizes that they can’t play, bad coaching, etc.
I will not worry, I will be happy–I will fix, replace or resolve what I can, and let go of the rest because some things are just out of my control. It’s call life.
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. Don’t worry, be happy.
“thisisyourbestyear” is excited to announce that we have a winner in “The Best Dad Ever Giveaway”. Thanks to all who participated.
Amy Bland Carroll. We know that “Your Best Dad Ever” will have an amazing time at the Boardroom Salon for Men.
Thanks to all who participated, and a special thanks to the Boardroom Salon for Men.
*Amy, please email us at thisisyourbestyear@gmail.com so that we can get send you information about how to receive your prize.
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.
It’s almost Father’s Day. The time when we honor the father figures in our lives whether it is our father, uncle, grandfather, the father of our children or a male figure who stepped up–we want to give them credit for being “the best dad ever”.
This year “thisisyourbestyear” has teamed up with The Boardroom Salon For Men. The Boardroom gives men more than just a haircut; it gives them 
the ultimate grooming experience in an elegant country club-like atmosphere. Complimentary beverages, a pool table, a chess board along with plush leather chairs and a great atmosphere will make the “best dad ever” in anyone’s life have a great Father’s Day to remember. We will be giving away a gift certificate for the “best dad ever” in your life. The gift certificate will entitle the holder to a great service from the Boardroom–their Signature Cut. It’s more than just a haircut.
The Boardroom’s Signature haircut service, The Benchmark, which is valued at $60 includes:
In order to win this great gift for the “best dad ever” you must do at least 2 of the following items (the more you do, the more chances you have)
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. Don’t you think that you know the “best dad ever”–I do.
The winner will be announced on Monday, June 11.
Find out more about the services and locations of The Boardroom here.
I keep singing the lyrics “I went to a garden party”. It was set in the beautiful Garden of Eve at the home of Stephonia W. Roberts. I can honestly say I know why she named her backyard paradise the Garden of Eve–it was breathtaking.
The sign informed all guests to enter through the gate, and it seemed that you left the outside world 
outside when you entered. Nature had decorated with so many plants and trees that not only shaded but served a health purpose.
Stephonia is the ower of Mrs Jacks Body Food, she is also an author and extraordinary spoken word poetess. Her expertise in all things natural was on full display as she walked through her garden.
The atmosphere was that of ease and coolness in the hot Texas sun which had somehow given way to a cooling breeze, but Stephonia had natural cooling towels in case anyone needed them. The seating areas were placed throughout the garden, but most of the attendees started off by walking the garden paths and discussing the many beautiful plants.
When the hors-d’oeuvres were passed, we were informed about the natural ingredients that were 
prepared so deliciously. There were mocktails that were refreshing, and also cocktails that were light to the taste. It seemed that God had cooled off the garden just for that moment.
The Garden of Eve was a wonderful way to end the day with great conversation, wonderful food, drink, and information. But more than anything it was great to end the day in beauty and tranquility.
Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. Create your Garden of Eve to focus on you.
You can find more information about Mrs Jacks Body Food at the following sites:
Facebook and Etsy–Mrs Jacks Body Food
One of my pet peeves is the word organic. What exactly is organic? What is the difference between Whole Foods and Wal-Mart’s organic? The price is different so does that mean the quality is different? What are the requirements for something to be considered organic? Do we believe 
them? I can tell you that I can tell the difference in cage-free eggs and regular eggs. That’s about it though. To be sure that our fruits and veggies are organic we need to plant and grow our own.
Then there is that meat thing. We all know that turkeys and chickens are not that large. The mutant turnkey they sell us for Thanksgiving is as large as the pig the ham came from. I 
remember going to visit relatives once and seeing what they call a yard chicken. I told my mom they needed to feed him, and that’s when she told me that was the size he should be. And another thing, how many wings does a chicken have? Where are the other parts of the chicken? Seriously every restaurant has “wings” on the menu, but they don’t have thighs, breast or the other part of the wing on the menu. So where are the other parts–mutant chickens with 10 wings?
The size of the chicken parts at different fast food restaurants is dramatically different. At some, it seems you might be eating parakeets and others turkeys if you go by the size. How is this possible that they say they are all serving chicken?
All of the different cooking oils from vegetable, olive, saffron, coconut, canola and so many more. Which one is better, and do you need to keep one of each depending on
what you are cooking? My mom used Crisco for everything, and she could cook. In fact everyone I knew used Crisco. Doesn’t seem that we are any healthier. No, we never used lard so don’t go there.
I have a lot of other pet peeves when it comes to food, but you would be reading a novel. My last one is expiration dates. I don’t do a lot of cans or boxes, but when I do I look at the dates. A recent report said they just put any date on the cans and boxes even the eggs and milk. So when do I throw it out? At one time I could tell you if an egg was good just by holding it in my hand–out of practice now.
I must admit that I do have about 5 different kinds of oil in my cabinets. Can I tell the difference–sometimes.
When our mother’s, grandmother’s and my great-aunt Alice cooked they used Crisco in a can, but they cooked with love, and we loved it. It was better than any 5-star restaurant Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. There is always something new, but love makes everything taste better.
