Why Sit When You Can Stand?

It is amusing that people try to dictate when people should revert to rocking in the good old rocking chair.  Don’t get me wrong, I love rocking chairs.  There is something about rocking in a chair that reminds me of the comfort of home.  But saying that I was recently asked by someone who I considered to be a good friend when I was gonna sit down.

I didn’t answer, but it was a question for thought.  She said that it seemed that I was always on the go, always doing something, and even when I was just at home, it seemed that I was busy even if I was doing basically nothing.

Then it hit me, this person was one who loved to talk about age.  You know the person that loves to tell you how old they are, and the things they can’t do anymore.  Why is it that we are constantly telling others and most importantly ourselves what we can’t do anymore?  Most children think they can do just about anything, it is only as we age that we embrace what we can’t do.  My grandson recently attempted a gymnastics routine as I call it where you slide down the slide, propel yourself up and catch the monkey bars.  He did catch the monkey bars, but as the broken arm will attest he let go.

Even with the broken arm, he has decided that he is not to young/old to attempt this feat.  He goes go school, tutoring, plays sports, participates in worship at church, has play dates, studies, and so much more.  He knows exactly what has to be done, and those that he and his parents consider to be of less importance.

I say all of this just to say when he gets tired, and believe it or not he does get tired–he sits down for a rest.  But guess what, when he regains his strength, he is on the go again.  I know, I know you will probably say that he is all of nine years of age. But it should be the same for any age.

For once I am taking Honey’s Baby’s lead  (that’s my name for him).  When I get tired, I’ll sit down and rest for a while then get up again. My mother always told me that one day I might not be able to do the things I want to do so go for it.  I am also taking her advice.  So when I can’t any more, I will have great memories to bore my grandchildren with.  They will see that Honey had a ball even when she sat down and rocked.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.  You will know when it is time to sit down and rest.

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Yes Virginia There Is Life After Menopause

If only life was as simple as song lyrics.  You know if it were that easy then everyday would be great, but we all know that the process of life is not easy.  Each phase we go through has its challenges. Don’t jump to conclusions before you know the facts.

As women we tend to go through phases of life every 5 to 10 years or so it seems. Our bodies are constantly changing, and as we age things can change dramatically. There are studies out there that tell you about perimenopause (premenopause).  They explain what to expect once you get into the dreaded menopause.  It’s sort of  like telling a woman what to expect during pregnancy–no two are ever alike.

Then there are the studies that tell you what to expect while you are in menopause.  They even write television scripts about it. Remember Edith Bunker? They tend to forget to tell you again that no two women experience the same things in the same way.  Some people never know they have entered the dreaded menopause zone. They just know they are no longer having periods.  There are no hot flashes, no night sweets, no mood swings, no heart palpitations–they don’t even know they are changing.

My doctor who is male gave me advice when I talked to him about certain symptoms.  At least it was honest advice.  He said no one had ever died from menopause at least to his knowledge.  Life would get better.

Well I am here to tell you it does get better, but not the same.  Some women still experience brain fogginess, you know not remembering directions while driving, but you get there–don’t panic, it’s normal for some.  Reading and rereading is one that many women experience. It makes it hard when you are in a book club.

Weight comes from just thinking about food, and it comes in places that you never had it before.  Don’t fret exercise and a well-balanced diet still can fix this–it just takes more effort and time than before.

Had oily skin when you were a teenager and hated it, don’t worry after menopause dry skin is normal for many women.  Moisturizer becomes their best friend.  There may be a need to switch to all new cosmetics.

The subject of hair is another subject.  Depends on where the hair is or isn’t.  My best advice is to invest in a good magnifying mirror and a pair of tweezers.  Enough about hair that isn’t on the head, but on the face.

Some women even after menopause still have hot flashes.  I know for a fact insomnia can continue on.

There are prescription medications that you can take to help with the symptoms, there are even holistic medications that are available.  It’s up to you and your doctor to decide what course of action that you need to take.  Remember what is good for someone else may not be good for you. Don’t jump into what others do, we are all different.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear” and “yes, there is life after menopause”.  Now jump!  Just look before you leap because no two experiences on this journey of life are the same.

 

 

 

 

 

 

They Still Got It

Yes I was in the dreaded middle seat, but I didn’t have to pay for my luggage, and I don’t fight for overhead space–I just checked my luggage, and  the crew always seem to be nice–I was flying home on Southwest Airlines.  The latest issue of their magazine caught my attention, it’s their anniversary edition touting they (Southwest Airlines) still got it.

What caught my attention was the cover featuring what I thought were two flight attendants.  Well it turned out to be the same person, flight attendant Sandra Force, and she is featured in her 1971 flight attendant (stewardess) uniform, and her current flight attendant uniform. Yep, that means that she has been flying the friendly skies with Southwest Airlines for 45 years.  She looks amazing. 

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Inside the magazine you find information about this lovely woman of a certain age along with another flight attendant, C. J. Bostic who has also worked for Southwest Airlines for 45 years.   By all accords they have no intention of retiring–they actually like their job.

Click the link to read about this two amazing  women of a certain age:  Southwest Airlines Magazine

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”, and do something you enjoy like Sandra and C. J.  They still got it!  They show us that women of a certain age can’t be defined.  Got to love it! Do you still have it?

 

Leaving Home

My uncle who is 96 recently left his once beautiful home for over 60 years and moved into an assisted living facility where he has his own one bedroom apartment. This move was one that was at times easy, and other times it was gut wrenching. As one of the people in charge of this move, I called on everything in me to get through this. This journey is one that many women (and men) of a certain age will be responsible for as we mature, and our parents, aunts and uncles find they can no longer stay in their home.

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This process took a long time to complete with many different factors coming into consideration. I had not physically seen him for some time, but talked with regularly on the telephone.  He was forever telling me that he was doing just fine. Maybe physically he was, but for some unknown reason the state of his life was spiraling out of control.

When his brother, my uncle called to inform me that he had been taken to the hospital, but would be released in a few days I was a little concerned, but feeling okay since he could go to his home.  My cousin informed me that the house was no longer a home but something that was unsafe and unclean.

My cousins and I were not prepared for what we saw. Our once dapper, sharp dresser was thinner than usual which was not the shock, but he was disheveled, dirty and so unkept. This once proud man was sitting in this once grand house smiling his brilliant smile at my cousins and I.

Our mothers oldest brother could not live like this–we wouldn’t let it happen. The good part about this is that our uncle’s mind was as sharp as a tack.

Mentally there was nothing wrong and physically he was as fit as any 96-year-old could be. We immediately went into action. Since taking the truck keys would be hard and leaving home would be a hard sale, we went with home healthcare workers. The decision was made by everyone concerned, he even told us what time he wanted them to come each day–noon to 6.  While they were coming, we got together to find an assisted living home for him, one that he could make into his home.

This was not an easy chore, we did not need a nursing facility, we needed a place that had space, gave him independence, but still looked out for him.  The supervisor of the home healthcare workers was amazing, she gave us the name of someone and we were off.  We Uncle visiting Brookdale (1)visited three different ones, and all of us decided on the second one.  On the day that he was to make his visit to see if he like it, he was up, sharply dressed and ready.  He passed all of the assessments.  His only needed assistance was to make sure he took his 3 daily medications.  They could not believe he was 96 years of age.  He hadn’t had so many pictures taken in years–he was the man.

Even though the visit went great, there were still many hurdles to jump.  Some were more paperwork, doctor visits and more.  Moving day came, and the rain drops were the tears we all were feeling. To our surprise, he liked his new home!!

We know that there will be other obstacles that will come up, but we are so happy and pleased that our uncle, our mothers oldest brother is safe, clean, making new friends in his new home. He made us all remember “thisisyourbestyear”, and it is a blessing to have a great family that works together for the good of family. I love them all.

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Isn’t She Lovely–Mother’s Day Giveaway Winner

 2016 Mother’s Day Giveaway Winner–Tracy Marshall

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Tracy is an amazing woman of a certain age. She is the creator of the lifestyle blog–Tracy Marshall 1961 Blog which features articles on topics from travel, great gifts, family adventures and more. She is the winner of our 2016 Mother’s Day Giveaway.  Her lovely price is the beautiful statement necklace donated by Kendra Scott*

 

Congratulations Tracy!  Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.

*Special thanks to Kendra Scott, 1612 South University Drive, Fort Worth, TX  76107

National Better Hearing Month

Better Hearing Month

Got a phone?  You can take a hearing test.  It’s as easy as that. Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.  You don’t want to miss the sounds that matter.

Take the test…

To take the free hearing test, you can call 1-844-9-Duracell or visit Duracell.com/StayConnected to view the film and find out more.

 

 

A Love Note Came In The Mail

A couple of months ago I informed you about the ending of a love affair that I had for many years.  It was my love affair with Shipley Donuts.  They are the best things this side of heaven.  Just in case you missed the article, here is the link:  https://thisisyourbestyear.com/2016/01/01/happy-new-year-no-resolutions-for-the-new-year-just-a-confession-a-satire-kind-of-sorta/

As with all affairs if they are not amicable, there is either “I want you back” or “I don’t want anyone else to have you”.  Well Mr. Shipley wants me back.  First of all he moved into my neighborhood, and even had a grand opening (house-warming) that I ignored. Every time I thought about him, I just ate another bowl of oatmeal.  I’ve had regular, steel-cut, instant and whatever other kind there is.  No it is not as sweet as him, but it is so much better for me than him.

20160514_145226Wouldn’t you know it, he decided to send me a love note, and what a note it was.  He knew I wouldn’t be persuaded with the buy one dozen get another free.  He knows that I must have him twice to be satisfied.  Yep, you guessed it.  He sent me a coupon for two “free” glazed donuts (no purchase necessary). I started to think, how many Weight Watcher points are two glazed Shipley donuts, how far do I have to walk/run to burn off those calories, will I have to give up my glass of wine a day?

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The Weight Watchers booklet said under Shipley Donuts a number so large I couldn’t read it, and it was no way I was walking from Fort Worth to Dallas and back for two donuts, and

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besides a glass of wine a day may not keep the doctor away, but it will surely help ease the pain of ending an affair.

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Remember “thisisyourbestyear”, and steel-cut oatmeal is not bad, it is good for you, and a glass of wine on the patio as the sun goes down–enough said. Cheers!

You May Be The Same Size, But…

I love it when people say they are the same size they were way back when. At this stage of life I am probably about the same size I was before l had children. Even saying that the weight is distributed differently, you know not sitting like it use to unless of course you have visited your local cosmetic guru to have some work done, then it is probably sitting higher.

As we have become women of a certain age, we don’t want to look like our mothers and Lord forgive us surely not like our grandmothers when they were our age. Sadly though for most of us we can’t look the way our daughters and granddaughters look. Seriously Beyonce and her mom may be about the same size, but there is almost a 30 year age difference. One is Blue Ivy’s mom and the other is her grandmother.
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Remember when you go shopping the sales lady is nice, but her job is to sell. She may tell you that you can pull something off, and you want to believe you can, but please look in the mirror. As we mature unless we are a dancer, have good genes or have always exercised and even then we may not avoid the inevitable–we sometimes just have to let some outfits go. Hey it may be time to try something new.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.  Same size or not, check the mirror before you leave home.

VETERANS DAY

For all those who served–“thank you for your service”.  For all those who assisted you in your service, those that parented alone, those that moved from pillar to post to keep the family together, those that welcomed you home and assisted in your reentry into civilian life–thank you for helping them serve our country.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”. 

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“The” Texas Conference for Women

The state of Texas always does it BIG, and it held a BIG, Texas Conference for Women in Austin.  Not only was it BIG, it was educational, fun, exciting and much more.  There was something for every woman no matter what age, educational level, etc.  There were local speakers, speakers who talked on social media, national speakers such as Robin Roberts and Tory Johnson.  The conference had great motivational speakers including one of the few men at the conference–Bert Jacobs, the CEO of “Life is Good”.  Tory Johnson of Good Morning America held a “Pitch Your Product” section. Patricia Arquette gave an impassioned talk on women, and Robin Roberts kept us laughing.  The First Lady of Texas, Cecilia Abbott greeted the crowd.  There was so much to see and do–it was great!

Tap each picture to see who was there.  Enjoy!

Remember thisisyourbestyear”, and as Jake says “Life is Good”