Oprah’s “The Life You Want” Tour Houston Edition

Ms. O came to town, and Houston made a believer out of her that Texas does everything bigger and better.  The Toyota Center of Houston came alive with what seemed to be a sea of women of all ages.  There were mothers and daughters with grandmothers in attendance too.  There were those on a girlfriends get-a-way, celebrities, co-workers, and even some who came alone.  There were husbands and boyfriends who were having a good time also. Even her BFF Gayle came along for the ride.

Oprah held church, and it was really good church.  Oprah was the senior pastor in charge of the service.  She brought along several assistant ministers including, Deepak Chopra who lead the attendees in “The Life You Want Meditation”. Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of “Eat, Pray, Love” talked about “The Quest” in your life.  Pastor Rob Bell, yes he is a real pastor continued the program with his presentation entitled “Everything is Spiritual”, and then Ms. Iyanla Vanzant concluded with her words of wisdom entitled “Here’s to Life”.

In between presenters, we danced with DJ Kiss, we exercised to Soul 15 with Angela Davis. Hey Oprah even became an educator as we opened workbooks and did assignments.  This was a hands on event.

Oprah joined Amy Purdy, “Dancing With the Stars” finalist on stage to award Toyota’s “Standing O-Vation” award which recognizes extraordinary people in communities.

I did not find not one person who did not enjoy the weekend.  I did, however see one man being pulled along by his wife at lunch that seemed a little miffed.

As it ended, I thought of what I know for sure.  I know “thisis(my)yourbestyear”. Here’s to Life!

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Oprah Comes To Texas With A Few Of Her Friends

Ms. O comes to Texas–Houston to be exact on October 17 and October 18.  She will bring her latest self-help tour to the Toyota Center. “The Life You Want Weekend” is a two-day seminar that is designed to give you the keys that are needed to live up to what you consider to be your true potential in both your personal and professional life. Along with Ms. O, there will be some of her favorite self-help people.  Even best friend Gayle may make an appearance.

For more information go to:  www.oprah.com

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Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.

See you there.

Oprah With Women of a Certain Age

Two of the best and very informative interviews for women of a certain age  were Oprah’s Next Chapter with Gloria Estefan and Oprah’s Next Chapter with Tina Turner; both of which aired in August.  Both women talk about being a woman of a certain age.  They talk about career, love, financial planning, faith and so much more.

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Tina Turner

You can find reruns of these shows on the OWN channel.  You will not be disappointed.  These two women know “thisisyour(their)bestyear”.

Catching Up With Old Friends–Spring Break Reading

As a woman of a certain age, I tend to lose touch with some of my friends.  It seems that all of us are busy going here and there–making sure that everyone is happy and content.  It seems that most of my friends are well into their careers or starting new ones.  While on Spring Break in Hot Springs Arkansas, I have decided to invite my friends to go with my husband and me.  He doesn’t mind because they don’t take up that much room and are very quiet.  I even invited someone who I wanted to meet.  Yes, I invited Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor.  She has been someone who has always fascinated me because she is a strong woman of a certain age.

Sonia Sotomayor

Justice Sotomayor is woman who like most of us has hit her stride as she has matured. I think her story will be one that will enlighten me, and also one that I will enjoy.

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Oprah and I have had to keep in touch with each other by way of “Oprah’s Next Chapter” which I watch every week.  She keeps me informed about the in’s and out’s of some of my favorite people–loved the show with Wayans family  (if you haven’t seen that one, it is wonderful).  I just felt it was time we sat down and had a girl-to-girl conversation so I invited O magazine to come along.  We’re going to talk about everything.  We’re going to start in the morning with a cup of coffee and end the day with a glass of wine.

I had to invite my old friend Ebony magazine.  Ebony has been there for me when no one else was there.  She has seen me through all the stages of my life.  Sometimes we tend to forget those that were there through it all. Desiree Rogers has done a wonderful job reinventing Ebony, but keeping it true to it’s roots.

Since I am on into my second act of life, I always try to know what to do with my money so that I can continue to do some of the things that I like to do so I bought along Money magazine. It has helped me try to insure that even as I mature even more I will be okay financially.  I love the little financial quizzes.

My better half loves to drive wherever we go, and my girlfriend Avis and I are always up for a road trip.  They can be so much fun when you don’t have an agenda, and time is not an option so I bought along Texas Highways magazine.

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I truly miss Susan Taylor, you know the “In the Spirit” lady.  She was one of the reasons that I loved Essence magazine.  Essence has changed, as I have too, but it still talks to me about the beauty and the intelligence of “me”.  Can you believe Tia and Tamera are married with children.

Of course every woman of a certain age should have More magazine on their night stand.  It is for and about us.  This year our first lady, Michelle Obama will get her AARP card.  Their magazine is really helpful.  It talks about money, lifestyle, travel and more–I like it. 

I live in Fort Worth, Texas–the best in the West so I have to bring along the city magazine which is one of my favorites.  I say this with tongue in cheek.  I have had a running battle with them to put my alma mater correctly in the colleges/university issue.  Somehow they can’t seem to understand that Texas A&M Commerce has one of the best undergraduate and graduate programs in the state.  I keep telling them and will continue until they get it right.  Even with that, they have the in’s and out’s of the city, and they are a wonderful city guide for Fort Worth and Arlington.

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Departure magazine let’s me dream and Robb Report makes me wish.  These two are my sister’s.  They take me away to places that I want to go to.  I love the trips they take me on.  Endless Vacations magazine says it all–no need to explain.

Since I’m about to get to know my friends again, I also bought my music.  I don’t want to disturb my hubby as my girls and I have fun.

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When the girls and I get to talking, we can look at the lake, and just relax.  There are even places that we can get our exercise on–walking trails.  We just need to bundle up and get moving.

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While I’m talking with the girls, I will have to do a little work too.  I will have to tell them my girlfriend Britine Burton is running for the Arlington Independent School District School Board, and believe it or not I’m trying to assist her.  I’ve bought along a couple of pieces that I need to proofread.  This will not take long, then I can get back to my guests.

New friends are wonderful, but you can just be yourself with old friends.  Remember “thisisyourbestyear“.

Olympian Al Joyner talks of Loss

Olympian Al Joyner talks of Loss

Olympian Al Joyner tells how his daughter Mary saved his life after the death of his wife, Flo Jo.  The entire episode on Oprah’s Next Chapter was fantanstic.  If you are a fan of the Olympics, watch this episode before they come on.

http://www.oprah.com/own-oprahs-next-chapter/Olympian-Al-Joyner-Discusses-the-Death-of-His-Wife-Flo-Jo-Video

 

Mary says she remembers saying her prayers with her mother every night.  She said her mother always told her to be grateful for “everything” because nothing was promised.  Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.

Friendships Lost

I always try to write while on an airplane flight because it keeps my mind calm.  I also listen to music especially gospel when going through turbulence.  On this particular flight I began to write about friendships through the years.

Line sisters of Psi Zeta Chapter of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority–members of the 12 Phases of Togetherness.

You know friendships and how they change as we live our best year.

Friends since first grade and junior high school–how many years ago was that?

I thought the process was going pretty good, and then I decided to take a break and read one of my favorite magazines–More.  While reading the latest for women of a certain age, I ran across an article written by Jacquelyn Mitchard entitled “Where Did Our Friendship Go Wrong”.  This article got me to thinking even more about friendship(s).  I will ultimately give credit where credit is due.  It is an excellent article for women who have lost a friend.   I’m not talking about death, moving away or anything like that. I ‘m talking about the feeling that occurs when the friendship just stops and no matter how hard you or the other person tries, you can’t seem to get it back.

Jacquelyn Mitchard’s article deals with what we as women of a certain age go through when a friendship dies.  I will not give away the article, but it will cause you to stop and think even if it has not happened to you.  It has not happened to me in this particular manner.

The article will make you smile, it will make you sad.  You know the feeling you had when you broke up with your one true love, but you still saw him almost every day in the hallway.

A friendship that dies is sort of like a divorce or even the death of a spouse.  You tend to have to divide friends and acquaintances.  When a divorce happens who gets what friends, who gets the church, who gets the activities that you enjoyed together (the other friends came with the activities).  When a spouse or partner dies, this couple becomes a single person and that makes all the difference in the world.  How can the friends discuss their significant other when you don’t have one.

I can’t imagine my life without certain friends, those that I see and talk to daily, and those that I see only on occasion.

We’ve been trying to climb walls since our days at East Texas State University (Texas A&M Commerce).

I can’t imagine Oprah without Gayle

Gayle and Oprah’s road trip.

or Lucy without Ethel.

Lucy and Ethel were always together.

I even thought I couldn’t imagine Jen without Evelyn (it was my guilty pleasure until last season–little too much drama for me).

Basketball wives Jen and Evelyn before Chad came into the picture.

Then again, I always thought Diana Ross and the Supremes,

Where did their love go?

Desitiny’s Child and others would always be together–not!  Almost every time I read an article on former first lady Laura Bush, she is doing something with her friends.

Former First Lady Laura bush with friends.

As we live our best year, we notice that our friendships can change and evolve.  We can have friends of different ages.  We can have our friends that we enjoy doing certain things with. It does not mean that we love our other friends any less.  I love to travel with my cousin Kaye, it does not mean that I love my other cousins any less.

Grab your coffee, tea or wine and take a look at Jacquelyn Mitchard’s  “Where Did Our Friendship Go Wrong”. Reflect on the friendships that you have lost and enjoy the ones that you have now because no matter what has happened in the past “thisisyourbestyear”.

Here is the link to this wonderful/thoughtful article:  http://www.more.com/memoir-friendship-wrong

Pearly Whites Need to be Kept Bright

There are many different suggested ways that are said to turn back the aging clock; from creams, to pills, to injections to much more.  This week we’re going to share one solution that is easy and cost-effective, and most of all–it works.

A smile can make or break a first impression, and it is one of the first things to age on us.  To be exact, our teeth age a lot faster than most of the rest of our ody.

My mother always told me to keep my hair and my teeth up.  Once on Oprah, cosmetics queen Bobbi Brown said that teeth were one of the things that aged us first.  She was the first person that I heard suggest that we whiten our teeth to help with our appearance.  Back then you had to go to the dentist for this procedure.  Now all you need to do is go into any store where they sell toothpaste and you are on your way.

Whitening teeth is like anything else, you can overdo it.  Think back to people who have the whitest teeth.  The ones that I think of are usually people who live in third world countries with poor and/or no nutrition.  Their teeth are so white because their bodies are lacking something nutritionally.  So please do not overdo it.

There are many reasons that our pearly whites lose their luster–from the water we drink to coffee, tea, smoking and much more.  Very few of us brush every time we eat.

There are many products out there that will give you some degree of whitening.  I personally went to the dentist and had the tray made.  I take the tray out, put a small amount of whitener in it and wear the tray for about 15 to 20 minutes every three to four weeks.  I love coffee, no I mean I love coffee, but I know that it can stain teeth, so I follow this routine to keep my smile bright.

You may only need to whiten your top teeth and/or bottom teeth.  While looking in the mirror, smile–do you smile wide enough to see upper and lower teeth, if not why whiten them?  Remember, anything that you do that is not natural, and bleaching is not natural will harm you in the long run.

It is so much easier now to whiten teeth.  Any store that sells regular toothpaste, sells whitener.  Some toothpaste such as Colgate Optic White, Crest 3D White Vivid Mint and many more are easily available.  There are strips such as Crest Whitestrips and more.  You can do the at home kits.  If you have the time and money you can even do the veneers which are what most celebrities have.

Take your time and decide what’s best for you.  I will guarantee you that people will notice your new smile.  When they ask you what is different, just tell them “this is your best year.”  Notice my friend Nedra and I showing off our pearly whites above.

Which products do you use to enhance your smile–share with us.  See you next week.  Thisisyourbestyear.