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Schedule Your Health Exams

We’ve always talked about taking care of ourselves, but most of the time it is just that–talk.  We as women of a certain age fail to schedule our yearly exams.  The ones that we should do at least yearly unless the doctor tells us to do something differently. How we fail to schedule our exams is a mystery to me–we are master schedulers.

My girlfriend Avis always schedules all of her exams close to her birthday–she says that way she will always remember. I do put mine on my phone calendar, plus my doctors are really good about reminding me. I never miss!

There are several exams that should be done yearly.

  • Mammogram–the one that most people know about is a screening mammogram.  This is a low dose x-ray of the breast from different angles. Some people with dense breast, women of a certain age or for other reasons may also be advised to do a diagnostic mammogram or ultrasound of the breast.  .
  • Pelvic Exam and Pap–no you are really never too mature to have this exam. It is done to determine precancerous or cancer of the cervix.
  • Step on the scale–close your eyes and wish away the pounds. Unwanted pounds can lead to deadly illnesses.
  • Blood pressure–even if your blood pressure has risen, you can lower it without medication. It can be a silent killer.

There are other exams that you should do less frequently unless your doctor suggest yearly. Here are a few:

  • Hearing test–with the noise of the world it is surprising we don’t need one every year.
  • Eye exam–as we age our eyes do get tired, and we may need reading glasses or develop cataracts.
  • I’m sure there are other exams that some of us do such as dental exams and checking cholesterol.

As women of a certain age, we have to remember that it is all about us.  All of us want to live long lives, but we also want to be in the best health possible.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–schedule your yearly health appointments just like you schedule that nail appointment.

 

Meeting Paulette Who Is Walking Across America Topless

I am not easily impressed by celebrities, or at least I don’t think I am. In my mind, I think that celebrities and those that are famous are just like us.  There are a few people that I am in awe of though.  One of them is a beautiful woman of a certain age that I wrote about.

I found her on Facebook and begin reading about her.  I inboxed her, she wrote back, and this continued on for almost a month.  We then talked on the phone a few times, and we then decided to do a phone interview.  It was a great experience.  One that has inspired many.

When Paulette talked about her faith in God, her journey with breast cancer and her children, her story came alive to me.  If you have not read her story, please go to:  https://thisisyourbestyear.com/2015/10/10/breast-cancer-awareness-prayers-for-paulette-and-her-8-children/ to read about her amazing journey.

I had the opportunity to travel to New Orleans where she makes her home.  We arranged a day and time to meet.  She is as amazing in person as she was on the phone.  Her warm and beautiful smile just warmed my heart. Our conversation was like we had known each other for many years, it was as easy as Sunday morning.

From the smile on my face, you can see how excited I was to meet the wonderful, inspirational Paulette Leaphart. Her spirit, her love of life, her love of family, but most of all her faith in God is contagious.

Paulette is training to do a 1,000 mile walking journey from Biloxi, Mississippi to Washington, D. C. while being filmed along the way. Paulette will be topless to show the scars of breast cancer.  She will start her walk on April 30.  Her walk/movie is named “The Scar Story”.  I invite you to take a few minutes to look at the trailer.  It will amaze and inspire you. You will see the reason Paulette will walk topless.  The message is powerful. The link to the trailer is below.  Click on the link and be amazed, inspired and more.

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You can follow Paulette’s 1,000 mile journey on her Facebook Page–Prayers for Paulette 8 Children. There will be a few surprise walkers that will accompany her along the way.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–make new friends, they bring warmth to your heart.

 

Spring Break–Take A Break

Every time women of a certain age talk about Spring Break, we automatically think of Spring Cleaning.  We think of putting away winter clothing, changing the comforter, clearing out the pantry, deep cleaning this and that.  Why do we do that?  Is there an unwritten rule that we have to use our time away from the office working while everyone else is enjoying their time off?  What’s to keep us from doing the Spring Cleaning a little at a time after Spring Break?  This year I decided to do just that.

When I left work on the Friday before Spring Break, I went home and did my weekend cleaning that night–I was determined that this would be my Spring Break.  There would be no deep cleaning this Spring Break.  There would be the day to day cleaning, but nothing that would take all day and/or all week.

Here is my week of during Spring Break. What was yours like?

  • Sunday–great church service at Carter Metropolitan CME Church, and then dinner with my husband and our youngest daughter.  Then I did a movie (Creed) in my pajamas with my husband and popcorn and wine.
  • Monday–massage at Perfect Touch with Katie that made me want to lay there for a couple of hours.  Went walking with my sorority sister and made my steps then coffee at Starbucks afterwards. Then I decided to make homemade peanut butter cookies.  The kitchen was smelling good.  We ate them while we watched the movie again (it was rented for 2 days).
  • Tuesday–my guilty pleasure of a facial.  I absolutely love getting facials especially at my favorite place Ageless Perfection Skincare.  Miss Ruby is the best. Started reading “Natchez Burning” by Greg Iles for a book club I just joined. It is a very exciting read.
  • Wednesday–my best friend since second grade and I went to the Amon Carter Musuem of American Art to check out their latest exhibition–American Epics (Thomas Hart Benton and Hollywood).  Yes, it is very good and educational.  Then we were off to West 7th Street to have lunch outside because the weather was just perfect.  We tried our tastebuds at Mash’d, a place we had never gone to.  The best lemonade bar none.  I like mine tart, my friend likes hers sweet, we were both happy. Then my daughter cancelled our walk, but I went anyway–got my steps in.
  • Thursday–manicure and pedicure at Zizi’s.  Even decided to have a glass of wine while I was getting serviced.
  • Friday–going to a networking event for women sponsored by the women’s division of the Metropolitan Black Chamber of Commerce.  Got my TABC certification so that I can volunteer for the Fort Worth Food and Wine Festival.
  • Saturday–meeting with volunteer coordinator for Fort Worth Food and Wine Festival to get my assignment.  Then on to Fair Park to cover BeautyCon so that I can report about it to you, and see what they have for women of a certain age.

I started each morning with my prayers and coffee in my pj’s, and ended each night with wine and prayers in my pj’s. The house is still clean, yes the sweaters still need to go to the cleaners and be put away (well maybe, this is Texas weather). I’ll just drop them off on my way to work after Spring Break.

Spring Break is not for Spring Cleaning, it is for taking a Break during the Spring.  Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–you can clean next week.

WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH–CELEBRATING GREATNESS

It’s Women’s History Month.  Check your local area to see what events they have celebrating this month.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–celebrate and learn more about some amazing women that may not be in the history books.

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Go Red–Your Heart Depends On It

This post was written by C Y Cooper.

Remember that heart disease kills more women each year than breast cancer, and that our symptoms are so different than those of men.

A sea of RED took over the Hilton Hotel in Fort Worth, Texas recently for the 2016 Tarrant County GO RED For Women Luncheon.  The annual fund-raising event, by the American Heart Association of Tarrant County, drew a large crowd of supporters that focuses on improving the heart health of women in the surrounding area.

It’s no secret that Heart Disease is the No. 1 killer of women in America.  It affects more women than men and is more deadly that ALL forms of cancer combined.  So, what does it mean to GO RED FOR WOMEN.  It’s about making women’s health the No. 1 priority, getting the word out to every single female in this country about their risk of heart disease and stroke.

(G)et your numbers—–Ask your doctor to check your blood pressure and cholesterol.

(O)wn your lifestyle—–Stop smoking, lose weight, exercise, and eat healthy.  It’s up to YOU.  No one can do it for you.

(R)ealize your risk—–We think it won’t happen to us, but heart disease kills one (1) in three (3) women.

(E)ducate your family—–Make healthy food choices for you and your family. Teach your children/grandchildren that it’s important to stay active.

(D)on’t be silent—–Tell every woman you know that heart disease is our No. 1 Killer.

The Keynote Speaker for this year’s luncheon was Dr. Marjorie Jenkins, a nationally recognized expert in the field of sex and gender-based medicine and the Founding Director and Chief Scientific Officer of the Laura W. Bush Institute for Women’s Health.  Dr. Jenkins spoke on how and why women ignore the symptoms they may be suffering from heart disease and what can be done in treating, preventing and even ending the disease.  Besides Dr. Jenkins, the audience heard from Elissa Taylor, a wife and mother of three (3), who survived a heart attack while in her 30s.

Before the luncheon attendees had the opportunity to participate in Health Screenings, Cooking Demonstrations, Hands Only CPR presented by the City of Fort Worth Fire Department and a Silent Auction.  CBS 11 News Anchor Kaley O’Kelley served as Mistress of Ceremonies for the luncheon.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”–take care of yourself!

The Stimulating Donna Brazile

20160225_190253Some people know how to work a room, but most don’t know how to work a room with facts, humility, laughter and everything in between.  Well they should meet Ms. Donna Brazile–she knows how to work not only a room, but an auditorium filled to the rafters during the Maverick Speakers Series at the University of Texas Arlington.

She entered the room on the heels of being introduced by her friend, Texas State Senator, 20160225_193322Royce West.  Ms. Brazile showcased her southern roots by first thanking the people of Texas for all they did for the people of New Orleans who were displaced by Hurricane Katrina.  This thank you set the tone of her talk.  This woman who has talked with all kinds of people–from the man on the street to the president of the United States (lots of presidents) thanked us for doing something we were supposed to do.

Then she preceded to teach us a lesson about politics with laughter, and we all know that if this years elections were not so serious, they would be the best comedy shows  around. Even when she talked of some candidates, she did so without a mean bone in her body.

But my favorite time was when the audience was given an opportunity to ask questions.  This was when the teacher came out of Donna Brazile. The people asking questions were the millennials, who were looking for answers. Ms. Brazile gave them her take on topics, her wisdom, her encouragement and her hope for them. She talked with them, laughed with them, and in her typical warm way even scolded them about their duty to vote.

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Remember “thisisyourbestyear”, and as Ms. Brazile stated–VOTE!

To learn more about the University of Texas Arlington’s Maverick Speakers Series please go to the University of Texas Arlington website and type in the words Maverick Speakers Series.  These events are free to the public–registration is required.  They will “stimulate your mind”.

Get The Women 2016

As I always say “I love smart women”, and on Saturday, January 30, 2016 I was in a room filled with them. The Fort Worth Metropolitan Black Chamber of Commerce Women’s Business Division held it’s kickoff.

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Ms. Yolanda Harper is the chair of the Women’s Business Division, and she is determined to showcase outstanding women in Tarrant County.  If the kickoff is indication of the energy this young lady brings to the organization then she is set for an exciting tenure and the FWMBCC has a new star.

The networking started from the time each lady checked in with professional headshots taken, and then a delicious breakfast served. The laughter, good conversation and networking made for a fun filled time.

To keep the event going the speaker of the hour was passionate about women in business. Mrs. Tonya Veasey entertained, informed and inspired the audience. The audience saw themselves in her story.

For at least an hour after the program there was more networking and exchanging of ideas.  Rememberthisisyourbestyear”. Get out and network.

No Appointment–Knock On The Door Anyway

I met a beautiful woman of a certain age (Karen Fleming) by chance while working an employment fair.  While talking with her I learned that she was a retired Master Sergeant, and had recently finished interior design school. She is one of those artsy people who see the big picture where I just see a chair.

 

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Karen and I at our first meeting at employment fair

Her story is one that shows that we as women can make our dreams come true no matter the obstacles or the little bumps in the world.  Karen worked full time while going to school.  She was determined that interior design would be in  her future. We talked about our dreams, and how we had prepared for them.

Karen’s story is one where you prepare and then you go for it.  You make your own opportunities.  Karen’s good friend, Tracy took her to lunch to celebrate her birthday and to have girl talk–they are both interior designers and former military.  They had talked of starting a business together–decorating business.  Her friend mention Decorating Den and Lisa Landry who is the franchise owner in Arlington, Texas. Tracy had been following Lisa’s work, and was very impressed and wanted to meet her, but she could never get in touch with her.

Karen, being the go getter she is decided they should just go to Decorating Den and knock on the door (Opportunity), which they did–under a sign that stated “By Appointments Only”.  As Opportunity would have it, everyone was at lunch except you guessed it Lisa Landry, who let them in, and talked with them about Decorating Den and the opportunities there were in franchising.

Soon after meeting with Ms. Landry, they begin the process of interviewing to become franchise owners, even presenting a project to Lisa. After hearing the ins and outs, the commitment, the financing and everything else that it takes to obtain a franchise they decided this was not for them, but design and decorating were still their goals.

A few days later, as Opportunity would have it, Ms. Landry called and offered them both positions as decorators with her franchise–they had made the best of being prepared and able to answer when Opportunity  opens the door Karen’s passion is being creative.  They were both hired, and the rest is going to be history.

Remember “thisisyourbestyear”.  Always be prepared, you never know when Opportunity will open the door. Notice how much brighter Karen’s smile is in the photos from Decorating Den.  When you do what you love, you love what you do.

 

Go Red For Women–Save The Date

The American Heart Association-Tarrant County will be holding its annual
“Go Red For Women” luncheon.  This is an impressive lunch and learn experience that you don’t want to miss.  Save the date–February 26, 2016.

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Protecting Women & Children (New Friends New Life)

AMAL CLOONEY TO KEYNOTE WINGS LUNCHEON BENEFITING NEW FRIENDS NEW LIFE ON APRIL 14

Internationally Known Attorney and Human Rights Activist Shares Nonprofit’s Passion to Protect Women and Children, Combat Human Trafficking and Provide Healing and Hope

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(From New Friends New Life) New Friends New Life, a nonprofit organization that restores and empowers formerly trafficked girls and sexually exploited women and children, announces that Amal Clooney will headline its 13th Annual WINGS Luncheon on Thursday, April 14, 2016, at the Hilton Anatole Dallas.  She and her husband, famed actor and director, George Clooney, share a passion for philanthropic work with a focus on protecting human rights.  This will be her first trip to Dallas.

The Honorable Jeanne Johnson Phillips will serve as luncheon chair for the second year in a row.  Honorary Co-Chairs the former First Lady Laura Bush and Ruth Altshuler, also in their second year with the WINGS Luncheon, are joined this year by Caren Prothro and Annette Simmons as well as Board Chair Nancy Ann Hunt.

“As a human rights activist on a global scale, Amal Clooney is a perfect voice to advocate against a crime that is happening in our own backyard,” said Jeanne Johnson Phillips.  “The subject of sex trafficking and the sex industry as a whole were rarely spoken of just a few years ago, but thanks to the incredible work of organizations like New Friends New Life and a corporate community that is willing to step forward with funding, we are making huge strides to end human trafficking in Dallas and throughout Texas and empower its survivors. Clooney’s knowledge, experience, and presentation will help us educate the community and send a strong message that Dallas is a no tolerance zone for human trafficking as we strive to protect our children, an estimated 400 teens on the streets each night – the most vulnerable targets of human traffickers.”

A Lebanese-British barrister, human rights activist, philanthropist, and author, Amal Clooney’s long and accomplished career in the fields of international law and human rights have won her international acclaim. Her recent work as of 2015 has been in the field of advocating for the protection of women against physical and sexual violence in combat zones.

Serving more than 1,200 women and children annually, New Friends New Life provides holistic services for sexually exploited girls, women, and their children including access to education, job training, interim financial assistance, mental health and spiritual support.  By partnering with law enforcement, corporate sponsors, community organizations and individual donors and volunteers, New Friends New Life helps to provide legal assistance, medical services, budget counseling, job-readiness training, and educational opportunities. The nonprofit’s High Risk and Trafficked Teen Girls Program offers sexual abuse recovery groups for adolescents, teaching girls, ages 12 to 17, how to define, recognize, and ultimately recover from abuse.  The program is an intervention and prevention effort to help girls avoid a lifetime of exploitation as human trafficking victims.

Past WINGS luncheon speakers have included Kevin Costner, Sally Field, Barbara P. Bush, Nicholas Sparks, and Harriet Miers.

Sponsorships are available, ranging from $2,000 to $100,000.  Contact Kelly Cruse, wings@newfriendsnewlife.org, (214) 965-0935.

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